When your cousin cheated you out of your inheritance, it was probably because the temptation is simply too hard to resist. It basically comes down to greed. Siblings can come up with all sorts of elaborate excuses and then use a number of schemes to cover up what they did. When siblings have a strained relationship or when they were geographically separated for a long time, they will sometimes deny the other siblings their share of the inheritance.
What are the red flags that your cousin cheated you out of your inheritance?
Do you see a sudden increase in your cousin’s spending? Is your cousin buying nicer clothing? Bought or leased a new car? Bough a new house or is renovating their house? Sending their kids to an expensive school? While those things don’t prove that your cousin is stealing from the estate, they could be red flags.
What can we do about the cheating?
The simple answer is, we try to get the money back. Where an executor refuses to return the money, we sue the executor and execute his property in favor of the estate. There are a number of remedies available to force your cousin to return the money.
Accounting. The standard process in the Surrogate’s Court is to compel your cousin to provide a formal accounting. Once your cousin provides the accounting, the beneficiary has a chance to object to the accounting. If the court finds that your cousin stole from the estate, the court will surcharge your cousin. If your cousin is also a beneficiary, the court will deduct the money from your cousin’s share. If your cousin is not a beneficiary, the court can surcharge him with the money he stole.
Turnover Proceeding. If your cousin stole property as opposed to money, the beneficiary’s estate lawyer can bring a proceeding for turnover of the property.
Bonding. Sometimes there is a bond on a cousin who is an executor. A bond is a kind of insurance against executor theft. If you are lucky enough that there is a bond, or your estate lawyer was experienced enough to apply for a bond, then you can make a claim against the bonding company if your cousin is found to steal money or property but the money is impossible to recover from your cousin.
But how about if your cousin is also a beneficiary? Don’t some of the money in the estate also belong to him? For example, a lady left her inheritance to her four children. Can the executor-cousin steal from the estate and say that he is just withdrawing his own cash? The answer to that is absolutely not. Even though your cousin is one of the beneficiaries of the estate account, at the end of the day the is not his. The estate belongs to all the beneficiaries. So if your cousin withdraws cash from the estate account, he is considered by the law to be taking everyone’s money, not just his own. As an example, if he withdraws four thousand dollars in cash, he is not considered to be taking four thousand dollars of his own cash from the estate account. Rather, he is considered to be cheating each one of his cousins out of a thousand dollars. If he withdraws a penny, most of that penny belongs to the other beneficiaries.
What are the potential penalties when my cousin cheated me out of my inheritance?
What can happen if your cousin is an executor and neglects good advice and cheats the estate? Nothing good. Your cousin can be removed from being executor can be by the judge on the case. The court will force your cousin to return the money. The court might order your cousin to pay for his own attorneys’ fees as opposed to using estate funds to pay for his attorney’s fees. The judge may even order your cousin to pay the wronged cousin’s attorneys’ fees. What is scarier is that if your cousin is an executor, they could be criminally prosecuted for stealing. That’s right, a criminal prosecution even if the executor is one of the beneficiaries of the estate and even if the amount he took is less than his stake in the estate account. The Surrogate’s Court judge can refer the case to the District Attorney’s office, which has the power to prosecute the case in criminal court.
Although we talk about a cousin who is an executor, the same rules apply to an administrator and a trustee, as well as a preliminary executor, administrator d.b.n., administrator c.t.a.d.b.n., administrator c.t.a., ancillary executor, ancillary administrator, and ancillary administrator c.t.a. 
Above, we’ve referred to the executor as a manager. The legal term for someone managing money, including an executor is “fiduciary.”  New York’s Estates, Powers and Trusts Law governs the conduct of an estate fiduciary, as well as a trustee and an agent under a Power of Attorney.
New York Consolidated Laws, Estates, Powers and Trusts Law – EPT § 11-1.6 states that “Every fiduciary shall keep property received as fiduciary separate from his individual property. He shall not invest or deposit such property with any corporation or other person doing business under the banking law, or with any other person or institution, in his own name, but all transactions by him affecting such property shall be in his name as fiduciary.” This includes taking cash from an estate account.
New York’s Penal Law (the Criminal Law) states that “A person steals property and commits larceny when, with intent to deprive another of property or to appropriate the same to himself or to a third person, he wrongfully takes, obtains or withholds such property from an owner thereof.” 
The estate is the owner of the funds. By cheating their siblings, a cousin who is an executor commits larceny.
New York Penal Law continues to say that “Larceny includes a wrongful taking, obtaining or withholding of another’s property, with the intent prescribed in subdivision one of this section, committed … by conduct heretofore defined or known as common law larceny by trespassory taking, common-law larceny by trick, embezzlement, or obtaining property by false pretenses.” 
To sum up, cousins who are executors should keep estate funds where they belong-in the estate account. Whenever they receive any funds relating to the estate in any way, those funds should be deposited into the estate and not withdrawn without either signed consent from each and every beneficiary or an order of the court authorizing your cousin to disburse the funds.
Whether you are a beneficiary who thinks that your cousin is cheating you out of your inheritance, or if you are an executor and you feel that your sibling is falsely accusing you of stealing from the estate account, you can speak with New York estate attorney Albert Goodwin, Esq. at (212) 233-1233 or (718) 509-9774.