When your sister is stealing from an estate, it’s usually because the temptation is simply too hard to resist. It comes down to greed. People can come up with all sorts of elaborate excuses for the theft, and then use a number of schemes to cover up what they did. When siblings have a strained relationship or when they were geographically separated for a long time, they will sometimes deny the other siblings their share of the inheritance.
What are the red flags that your sister is stealing from an estate?
Do you see a sudden increase in your sister’s spending? Is your sister buying nicer clothing? Bought or leased a new car? Bough a new house or is renovating their house? Sending their kids to an expensive school? While those things don’t prove that your sister is stealing from the estate, they could be red flags.
What can we do about the theft?
The simple answer is, we try to get the money back. Where the sister refuses to return the money, we sue her and execute her property in favor of the estate. There are a number of remedies available to force your sister to return the money.
Accounting. The standard process in the Surrogate’s Court is to compel your sister to provide a formal accounting. Once your sister provides the accounting, the beneficiary has a chance to object to the accounting. If the court finds that your sister stole from the estate, the court will surcharge your sister. If your sister is also a beneficiary, the court will deduct the money from your sister’s share. If your sister is not a beneficiary, the court can surcharge herwith the money she stole.
Turnover Proceeding. If your sister stole property as opposed to money, the beneficiary’s estate lawyer can bring a proceeding for turnover of the property.
Bonding. Sometimes there is a bond on a sister who is an executor. A bond is a kind of insurance against executor theft. If you are lucky enough that there is a bond, or your estate lawyer was experienced enough to apply for a bond, then you can make a claim against the bonding company if your sister is found to steal money or property but the money is impossible to recover from your sister.
But how about if your sister is also a beneficiary? Don’t some of the money in the estate also belong to him? For example, a lady left her inheritance to her four children. Can the executor-sister steal from the estate and say that she is just withdrawing her own cash? The answer to that is absolutely not. Even though your sister is one of the beneficiaries of the estate account, at the end of the day the is not his. The estate belongs to all the beneficiaries. So if your sister withdraws cash from the estate account, she is considered by the law to be taking everyone’s money, not just her own. As an example, if she withdraws four thousand dollars in cash, she is not considered to be taking four thousand dollars of her own cash from the estate account. Rather, she is considered to be stealing a thousand dollars from each of her siblings. If she withdraws a penny, most of that penny belongs to the other beneficiaries.
What are the potential penalties for your sister?
What can happen if your sister is an executor and neglects good advice and steals from the estate? Nothing good. Your sister can be removed from being executor can be by the judge on the case. The court will force your sister to return the money. The court might order your sister to pay for her own attorneys’ fees as opposed to using estate funds to pay for her attorney’s fees. The judge may even order your sister to pay the wronged sister’s attorneys’ fees. What is scarier is that if your sister is an executor, they could be criminally prosecuted for stealing. That’s right, a criminal prosecution even if the executor is one of the beneficiaries of the estate and even if the amount she took is less than her stake in the estate account. The Surrogate’s Court judge can refer the case to the District Attorney’s office, which has the power to prosecute the case in criminal court.
Although we talk about a sister who is an executor, the same rules apply to an administrator and a trustee, as well as a preliminary executor, administrator d.b.n., administrator c.t.a.d.b.n., administrator c.t.a., ancillary executor, ancillary administrator, and ancillary administrator c.t.a. 
Above, we’ve referred to the executor as a manager. The legal term for someone managing money, including an executor is “fiduciary.”  New York’s Estates, Powers and Trusts Law governs the conduct of an estate fiduciary, as well as a trustee and an agent under a Power of Attorney.
New York Consolidated Laws, Estates, Powers and Trusts Law – EPT § 11-1.6 states that “Every fiduciary shall keep property received as fiduciary separate from her individual property. He shall not invest or deposit such property with any corporation or other person doing business under the banking law, or with any other person or institution, in her own name, but all transactions by him affecting such property shall be in her name as fiduciary.” This includes taking cash from an estate account.
New York’s Penal Law (the Criminal Law) states that “A person steals property and commits larceny when, with intent to deprive another of property or to appropriate the same to himself or to a third person, he wrongfully takes, obtains or withholds such property from an owner thereof.” 
The estate is the owner of the funds. By stealing from the estate account, a sister who is an executor commits larceny.
New York Penal Law continues to say that “Larceny includes a wrongful taking, obtaining or withholding of another’s property, with the intent prescribed in subdivision one of this section, committed … by conduct heretofore defined or known as common law larceny by trespassory taking, common-law larceny by trick, embezzlement, or obtaining property by false pretenses.” 
To sum up, sisters who are executors should keep estate funds where they belong-in the estate account. Whenever they receive any funds relating to the estate in any way, those funds should be deposited into the estate and not withdrawn without either signed consent from each and every beneficiary or an order of the court authorizing your sister to disburse the funds.
Whether you are a beneficiary who thinks that your sister is stealing from the estate account, or if you are an executor and you feel that your sister is falsely accusing you of stealing from the estate account, you can speak with New York estate attorney Albert Goodwin, Esq. He can be reached at (212) 233-1233 or (718) 509-9774.