My Sibling Screwed Me Out of My Inheritance. Can I Get the Money Back?

When your sibling screwed you out of your inheritance, there’s a lot you can do. You have legal options available and an estate lawyer will likely be able to get the money and property back for you.

Before you hire a lawyer, you can try to recover stolen inheritance yourself by asking your sibling to restore or return it back to the estate.

This may or may not work, but you can always just ask them to return the money or property. It could be that their plan was to only take the property if they could get away with it. Now that they are discovered, they may decide to cut her losses and not have to deal with a civil lawsuit or even criminal prosecution, and they might just return the money or property in question.

As a matter of fact, you can put this article on pause and try to get in touch with them right now.

If that worked, great, we’re done here.

If that did not work, you can keep on reading. Your next step would probably be to sue your sibling in court. If you need an attorney to recover stolen inheritance, you can send us an email at [email protected] or call us at 212-233-1233 to discuss your options.

Once you get an attorney, they will ask you about the circumstances of the theft. Eventually, your attorney will put all of those circumstances in writing and will submit the writing to the court in a form of a petition or complaint.

People get screwed by their sibling all the time, probably because the temptation is simply too hard to resist. It basically comes down to greed. Siblings can come up with all sorts of elaborate excuses and then use a number of schemes to cover up what they did. When siblings have a strained relationship or when they were geographically separated for a long time, they will sometimes deny the other siblings their share of the inheritance.

What are the red flags that your sibling screwed you out of your inheritance?

There are potential red flags that your sibling screwed you out of your inheritance:

  • A recent and unexplained increase in your sibling’s spending
  • Your sibling buying nicer and more expensive clothing
  • Bought or leased a new car
  • Bough a new house or is renovating their house
  • Sending their kids to an expensive school

While those things don’t prove that your sibling is stealing from the estate, they could be red flags.

What can we do about the cheating?

The simple answer is, we try to get the money back. Where an executor refuses to return the money, we sue the executor and execute his property in favor of the estate. There are a number of remedies available to force your sibling to return the money.

Turnover Proceeding. If your sibling stole property as opposed to money, your estate lawyer can bring a proceeding for turnover of the property.

Surcharge. Your lawyer can petition the court to surcharge your sibling for the amount they screwed you out of. If your sibling is the executor, then the court can surcharge his share of the estate, giving some or all of your sibling’s share to you and the other beneficiaries. Surcharge here means charging the person who stole the money with having to return the money. It’s a legal term, used a little differently than the common way we use the word surcharge.

Accounting. The standard process in the Surrogate’s Court is to compel your sibling to provide a formal accounting. Once your sibling provides the accounting, the beneficiary has a chance to object to the accounting. If the court finds that your sibling stole from the estate, the court will surcharge your sibling. If your sibling is also a beneficiary, the court will deduct the money from your sibling’s share. If your sibling is not a beneficiary, the court can surcharge her with the money they stole.

Bonding. Sometimes there is a bond on a sibling who is an executor. A bond is a kind of insurance against executor theft. If you are lucky enough that there is a bond, or your estate lawyer was experienced enough to apply for a bond, then you can make a claim against the bonding company if your sibling is found to steal money or property but the money is impossible to recover from your sibling.

But how about if your sibling is also a beneficiary? Don’t some of the money in the estate also belong to her

For example, a lady left her inheritance to her four children. Can the executor-sibling steal from the estate and say that they are just withdrawing his own cash? The answer to that is absolutely not.

Even though your sibling is one of the beneficiaries of the estate account, at the end of the day the is not his. The estate belongs to all the beneficiaries. So if your sibling withdraws cash from the estate account, they are considered by the law to be taking everyone’s money, not just his own.

As an example, if they withdraw four thousand dollars in cash, they are not considered to be taking four thousand dollars of his own cash from the estate account. Rather, they are considered to be cheating each one of their siblings out of a thousand dollars. If they withdraw a penny, most of that penny belongs to the other beneficiaries.

What are the potential penalties when my sibling screwed me out of my inheritance?

What can happen if your sibling is an executor and neglects good advice and cheats the estate? Nothing good.

  • Your sibling can be removed from being executor can be by the judge on the case
  • The court will force your sibling to return the money
  • The court might order your sibling to pay for his own attorneys’ fees as opposed to using estate funds to pay for his attorney’s fees
  • The judge may even order your sibling to pay the wronged sibling’s attorneys’ fees
  • What is scarier is that if your sibling is an executor, they could be criminally prosecuted for stealing. That’s right, a criminal prosecution even if the executor is one of the beneficiaries of the estate and even if the amount they took is less than his stake in the estate account. The Surrogate’s Court judge can refer the case to the District Attorney’s office, which has the power to prosecute the case in criminal court

Although we talk about a sibling who is an executor, the same rules apply to a sibling in any of the other fiduciary roles:an administrator and a trustee, as well as a preliminary executor, administrator d.b.n., administrator c.t.a.d.b.n., administrator c.t.a., ancillary executor, ancillary administrator, and ancillary administrator c.t.a. [1]

Above, we’ve referred to the executor as a manager. The legal term for someone managing money, including an executor is “fiduciary.” [2] New York’s Estates, Powers and Trusts Law governs the conduct of an estate fiduciary, as well as a trustee and an agent under a Power of Attorney.

New York Consolidated Laws, Estates, Powers and Trusts Law – EPT § 11-1.6 states that “Every fiduciary shall keep property received as fiduciary separate from his individual property.  He shall not invest or deposit such property with any corporation or other person doing business under the banking law, or with any other person or institution, in his own name, but all transactions by him affecting such property shall be in his name as fiduciary.” [3]This includes taking cash from an estate account.

New York’s Penal Law (the Criminal Law) states that “A person steals property and commits larceny when, with intent to deprive another of property or to appropriate the same to himself or to a third person, he wrongfully takes, obtains or withholds such property from an owner thereof.” [4]

The estate is the owner of the funds. By cheating their siblings, a sibling who is an executor commits larceny.

New York Penal Law continues to say that “Larceny includes a wrongful taking, obtaining or withholding of another’s property, with the intent prescribed in subdivision one of this section, committed … by conduct heretofore defined or known as common law larceny by trespassory taking, common-law larceny by trick, embezzlement, or obtaining property by false pretenses.” [5]

To sum up, siblings who are executors should keep estate funds where they belong in the estate account. Whenever they receive any funds relating to the estate in any way, those funds should be deposited into the estate and not withdrawn without either signed consent from each and every beneficiary or an order of the court authorizing your sibling to disburse the funds.

Whether you are a beneficiary who thinks that your sibling is cheating you out of your inheritance, or if you are an executor and you feel that your sibling is falsely accusing you of stealing from the estate account, we at the Law Offices of Albert Goodwin are here for you. We have offices in New York City, Brooklyn, NY and Queens, NY. You can call us at 212-233-1233 or send us an email at [email protected].

[1] NY EPTL § 11-1.1

[2] NY EPTL § 11-1.1

[3] NY EPTL § 11-1.6

[4] NY PEN § 155.05

[5] NY PEN § 155.05

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